I absolutely hate wet dreams. Or at least I did when I was still plagued by them.
It was utterly defeating to have a promising semen retention streak broken by a wet dream. Sometimes I’d lay awake in bed after having one just fuming about it (which didn’t help things, more on that later).
I’ve been on the semen retention journey for years now, but my SR goals didn’t really start materializing until I was able to get a handle on stopping my wet dreams.
I would constantly ask myself: Why do I keep having wet dreams? And why can’t I prevent them?
This led me down a rabbit hole which finally lead me to learn how to stop nocturnal emissions for good.
In this post, I’m going to lay out ten important tips that I learned during my journey. These tips will help you to stop having wet dreams, too.
I wish I had a post like this when I was confused and struggling myself. I’m pumped to share with you all that I’ve learned.
Let’s dive in.
1. Actively manage your accumulating sexual energy
You don’t want to simply hold back your sexual energy when you practice semen retention.
To succeed with retention, you have to do more with it. It’s really not just about retention, it’s about integration. This is something that many retainers misunderstand.
Sexual energy accumulates in your sexual center/pelvic floor area each day you go without ejaculating. You have to be able to circulate this and integrate it into the rest of your bodily energy field to avoid unwanted ejaculations.
If you don’t circulate the slowly building energy, it will pressurize at your genitals. And wet dreams are like a pressure release valve for the energy system.
If you allow your energy to stagnate in the sexual center of your body, the pressure builds, and your unconscious mind release that pressure by having a wet dream.
Even if you don’t have a wet dream, you’re more liable to have issues with your energy if you neglect to integrate the sexual energy that you’re building up.
There are a number of ways to manage your sexual energy and help it move throughout the rest of your energetic system.
- Meditation
- Stress mitigation
- Sexual practices like Tantra & Karezza
- Deep belly and testicle breathing practices
- Energetic movement practices like Qi Gong and TRE
- Mindset practices tat dissolve sexual shame and other sexual blockages
I cover these all in-depth in my Semen Retention Mastery course. I have an extensive chapter on wet dreams.
2. Level up your sleep hygiene
Proper sleep hygiene is an essential component in the fight against wet dreams.
Sleep hygiene is the habits and practices that we do on a regular basis which affect our sleep quality. Having an unsupportive bedtime routine can wreak havoc on your ability to resist wet dreams.
Here are some key elements of proper sleep hygiene for wet dream prevention:
- Setting a good bedtime (ex. getting to bed before you’re exhausted)
- Sticking to a solid nighttime routine
- Including in your nighttime routine practices mentioned in tip 1 that integrate your sexual energy
- Avoiding eating or drinking for a set time before going to bed (more on that in soon)
- Avoid sleeping in a hot room
- Avoid engaging in strenuous exercise in the hours before sleep
3. Work to minimize levels of chronic stress
99% of the time that men have discussed their wet dreams with, they reveal their wet dream came after a stressful day or week.
I know this was true for me when I had them.
Stress creates tension and contraction, which fuels wet dreams. An overactive sympathetic nervous system (stress response) is also the main cause of premature ejaculation, too.
Take on too high of a stress load day in and day out, and you’re going to be much more likely to suffer from wet dreams as your body tries to handle the pressure in your nervous system.
If you can keep your life more laid back and stress free, then your cortisol levels will be firing at the right rate and you’ll feel in balance.
Here are some ways to minimize chronic stress:
- Stay on top of your duties and responsibilities. Procrastination is a direct contributor to increased stress levels
- Drop unnecessary stimulating instant-gratification pursuits. They might make you feel like you’re unwinding, but unless you’re exactly where you want to be in your life as a man, these activities fall into the procrastination tier, which increases stress
- Actively work to heal your emotional shortcomings and trauma-driven mindsets. Chronic stress thrives on maladaptive coping mechanisms. Everyone picks up junk ways of thinking and behaving when we’re young. It’s our responsibility to uproot those beliefs and habits if we want to have less stress, and as a result, less wet dreams.
- Avoid stressing yourself out about wet dreams. This one is tough. Sometimes we can get so fixated on stopping our wet dreams that we psych ourselves out at night enough to actually cause more wet dreams to happen.
- Work out hard to tire yourself out and expend static energy. Just don’t go overboard and workout too hard, because that will create exhaustion, and exhaustion increases wet dreams.
I go more into why stress makes us want to ejaculate as well as high-level stress reduction methods in my Semen Retention Mastery course.
4. Be ready to adjust what you eat and when you eat it
The food you eat (and when you eat it) can make or break your attempts at avoiding wet dreams.
You want to avoid:
- Eating before bed. Having too much food in your stomach and digestive tract while sleeping can easily lead to wet dreams. Food that’s actively digesting stirs the energetic system and puts physical pressure onto the reproductive organs.
- Eating too often or too much. It puts extra pressure on your system when you eat when you aren’t hungry, which can lead to more wet dreams. This is more of an issue if you eat a huge, late dinner. But eating less often throughout the day in general is good. It rests the digestive system which is calming to the energy body and emotions.
- Eating processed, spicy, stimulating foods. Spicy and highly-seasoned foods increase stimulation, heat, and agitation in the energy system of our body. This stirs our energy and increases the likelihood that we’ll have wet dreams the following night. So tone down excess hot sauce, fast food, onions garlic, etc if you’re struggling with wet dreams. I talk about foods you should eat (foods that nourish and cool the energy channels) in my semen retention mastery course.
5. Limit your exposure to lustfulness
Avoiding lust isn’t about morality. You avoid lust because it’s a reproductive focused, highly ejaculatory energy. If you’re not orgasming regularly, but still are becoming aroused by lust on the regular, seminal fluid is primed and focused in an effort to seek release.
Left unmitigated, high levels of lust in your system leads you to fixate on releasing that hot, active, lustful energy by ejaculating it out.
Again, lust is not bad or anything, it’s just that too much of it just goes against the purpose of retention.
Lust keeps sexual energy in reproduction mode and makes it hard circulate it through the rest of the system like other sexual energies like you can with more nuanced sexual arousal.
To reduce excess lustfulness and minimize wet dreams, you want to:
- Limit your exposure to sexual media
- Limit lustful fantasizing
- Avoid eying up women lustfully.
Obviously, porn is out. But you definitely want to stop scrolling all tempting media, IG and TikTok included. This is one of the most important things to do if you want to stop having wet dreams.
My personal rule is this: I will use social media if I have a specific purpose for what I’m doing on it. Mindless scrolling just for the sake of scrolling isn’t helping me in any way.
It’s bred out of avoidance (we all have plenty of real tasks and goals that we should be doing instead) and the way scrolling social media (triggering dopamine release) is too similar for me to seeking out the perfect porn video.
Same type of neural pathways, albeit to a lesser degree. But the social platforms cater to that neural pathway to keep you engaged by filling your feed with lustful imagery.
I might seem hyper vigilant with this point. But after years spent helping guys quit porn and practicing semen retention myself I’ve learned just how often a seemingly innocent time spent idling on social media can evolve into seeking out sexual media.
Also, limit or avoid aggressive content. Violence and degradation can trigger the same sorts of stimulated emotions that increase the build up of frustrated sexual energy.
5. Step back from drugs and stimulants
Substances that alter the body tend to mess with all of your body’s energies, including sexual energy.
Here are a few that are known to increase the likelihood of having wet dreams when consumed.
- Caffeine
- Tobacco
- Alcohol
- Cannabis
- Opiates
- Amphetamines
Stimulants jack up cortisol, which is a fight/flight hormone. Too much fight/flight creates tension in the mind and body, which promotes wet dreams.
Cannabis might seem more innocent, but it has the effect of increasing heat in the body. It’s also very dopaminergic and makes us want to indulge in easy, low-effort, highly-stimulating instant gratification behaviors. This all promotes an ejaculatory mode of being.
Conclusion
Implementing the five tips in this post were game changers for my efforts against wet dreams.
I used to game a lot, smoke weed, eat food late, and go to bed late. This left my body and mind on level-level agitation mode constantly, and contributed to wet dreams considerably.
The biggest change for me was to not stay up late. When I stopped going to bed at 11pm or midnight and switched up my nighttime routine to meditation at 8:30 and hit my bed by 9:30, my wet dream frequency literally plummeted.
I hope this post has helped you. I have a ton more information and go into more depth on what I mentioned here in my Semen Retention Mastery Course. I also do one-on-one email coaching if you’re eager to get help and improve on your semen retention journey.
